Have you thought about writing your own vows at your wedding ceremony? The trend nowadays is to write your own vows which makes the ceremony much more intimate and meaningful between you, your fiance and guests. According to She Finds.Com, their no stress guide to writing your vows emphasizes three parts: a declaration of love, promises for the feature and some personal touch.
1. Can you write your own? Make sure that you can write your own vows, some churches or worship centers may have their traditional vows for the bride and groom. Your officiant will probably want to review your vows before the ceremony. If this is something you and your future spouse want to do, make it clear in the beginning so that upsets come up just before the ceremony.
2. Get your fiance on board! Make sure that he is comfortable with writing his own vows to you and that you are both on the same page. For some, it may be uncomfortable, or not as easy to express love in words, especially with all of the pressure from your guests staring and listening to you speak. Be sure to come to an agreement about writing your vows because this is very special for couples, and you want to make sure that the love you share is expressed beautifully.
3. Do not procrastinate! Sometimes getting the words out on paper might be difficult for you or your fiance, but brainstorm ideas throughout your wedding planning. You do not want to be up at midnight the night before your wedding, trying to put words together, express your love, not too long but not too short either. Approach your vows like writing a short love letter to your fiance, and keep it your style, do not try to be someone you are not. It helps to give yourself a deadline by when you want to have your vows completed. With any writing, you will need to do editing and make sure you are speaking in the correct context. These words will be remembered forever between you and your fiance. Always make sure that what you write is from the heart, and you are comfortable with speaking those words.
4. Keep it classy. Be sure to set the tone of your vows. Discuss this with your fiance, and see if you want to be very personal or add some humor. Though there are insiders between you and your fiance, make sure what you are saying is about your love for each other. Your guests are there to see both you and your fiance come together as one, and you want your words to be remembered for good reasons. If you want to be more in depth, write your fiance a love letter before the ceremony that he or she can read.
5. Borrow ideas. Its okay to look online, gather verses, quotes, or scriptures, or ask family and friends for help and guidance through the process of writing your vows. Some may have written their own already, so get tips from people who will take some of the stress away and give you advice about what you should and should not say. Vows should be your personal words to your future spouse. Vows can be personal, sweet, and your best way of expressing the love you share and the life you are excited for as a married couple.
6. Practice Practice Practice! Once you have your vows written, begin practicing speaking them out loud. Your vows should not be more than 3 minutes long. Practice in the mirror, and find the best tone of voice that you will use but also be able to speak the words you are saying. Rehearse the bigger words, make sure you do not speak too quickly or too slowly. Sometimes, words create a lot of emotion out of us, and you want to make sure that you can read your vows out loud but still do your best to keep it together.
Do you have tips for couples who are going to write their own vows? Share them with us! What were some of your favorite moments in reading your vows to your spouse?
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